Spilling Out!

Lynnea said...

*nodding head* Seen it. Done it. Sad but true. I loved the imagery in this poem.

meno said...

It's easier to see when it's happening to someone else. Sadly.
Nice poem.

Barbara said...

Lessons on relationships cannot be taught, but must simply be learned, sometimes the hard way...

Bob said...

people are fallible. sometimes with heartbreaking consequences.

it's called life.

Bob said...

boy, that was a downer! I'll be in a better mood tomorrow.

twilite said...

Spring is here. Like your pics of birds and poem esp the last 3 lines...sad but true.

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bulletholes said...

mom, this is a great poem!!!!
Can I plead the 5th?
Some of us Boy-birds get sent to the Bird-doghouse you know! Some times we get sent all the way out of the Backyard. Idiots that we are we never see it comin'.
Heres a song:
"Where are you when I call your name?
What did you do with my ball and chain?
I'm out here in the open air
I can't find it anywhere
And I'm so lost without it
It was such a part of me
I guess I'll get along
How hard could it be?"

Michele said...

How terribly sad, but true. I've seen it and experienced it from several sides...all of them painful. This whole marriage/partnership thing isn't easy, I think the animal kingdom has it figured out so much better than we humans do.

GEWELS said...

Poor judgement? Maybe hope-Misplaced as it may be.

Diana: Yes, it's like watching a train crash for me and not being able to do anything.

Maggie: It is so easy to belief people, (guys in this case) who are charmers. Thanks.

Meno: Man, I've got 20/20 sometimes! Thanks.

Barb:Yep...and some people it happens to again and again...just are a poor judge of character I guess.

Bob: Yes, you're right. It's a harsh reality. (Not a downer,You were just being realistic! Glad it's not my life though!)

twilite: Thanks. I had to write this to get it out of my mind!

Steve: It happens both ways I suupose...not always a guy. Where's this from? Is it yours? I'm not thinkin' anyone would miss their ball and chain!

Rapunzel: You got that right! My heart goes out to people who never learn and to whom this continually happens.

Gewels: Yes! That too for sure. Hope turns into trust albeit blind trust. I hate when lies are believed by trusting people. There should be a warning system!

mystic rose said...

scary and sad... true isnt it? although it seems like drama, it is life.
lively images!

fennymun said...

how true and sad - lessons in relationships could be harsh. Is it a misjudgement or hope-misplaced? I don't know. I think, accept it or not, sometimes people just change when time passes by...

Mystic: Thanks. It is scary since it can happen to any one of us. I got really lucky because I tend to trust everyone.

Fennymun: Yes, harsh lessons, especially if someone has to learn it again. They might not recognize the disguise the 2nd time.

gary rith said...

You and your bearded and athletic husband have been together nearly forever though, right MOI?

Gr: Yepper! 27 years this July! Don't know if it's a combination of making good choices and being lucky, but I suspect it is. I hate seeing others go down when they're too trusting and definitely making a wrong choice.

Lisa Kae said...

Beautiful, but sad, poem. This was my introduction to your wonderful site through Colleen's Loose Leaf Notes. I am another Floydian and a new (trying-to-be) blogger.

Lisa
http://darkchocolateredwine.blogspot.com/

Richard said...

I think selfishness should be the cardinal deadly sin, but, apparently, it does not make the cut and instead pride gets that coveted designation. Mind you, I might just be quibbling, perhaps pride encompasses selfishness.

The results of selfish behaviour are many. Self-interest with total disregard for others is not an acceptable modus operandi for me. We do not exist solely for ourselves, but as part of a larger community and our behaviour ripples through it.

However, scientist like Richard Dawkins would argue that selfishness is what got us to where we are. In fact, he was the one who coined the term meme as the smallest self-propagating unit of information. In his context it relates to genes, but it can be expanded to things such as ideas (he also coined the expression mind virus in relation to religion being a self-propagating notion. It has no physical existence, yet is able to find hosts necessary for its continuance).

As I beat my way back to the track (sort of), adultery as a form of selfishness enabling the propagation of genetic information to subsequent generations is a smart evolutionary move. Assuming you view the whole purpose of life as passing your genes down to the next generation (which apparently is what our genes are interested in, even if we think otherwise. This is one reason the question of free will is so important to me).

I will say it is sad, not because I have been conditioned to say that, not because I want to side with the moral majority, but because I genuinely believe deep down that it is despicable behaviour, which does not make sense in my world view. Notwithstanding that this sort of activity have been going on for pretty much forever; or that it is viewed differently in various cultures (Americans are puritanical on this issue - regardless of how they actually behave, many Europeans (the French, Italians) see it as nothing of consequence. Recall that mistresses were quite common in the past - as long as a man could support her. Indeed for many women, it was a way for them to acquire a decent life and status - think Madame de Pompadour).

Until proven otherwise, I prefer to consider myself a rational being who is capable of making choices and not a dog lead around by the nose.

Annelisa said...

Phew, Richard! Art thou protesting too much?

MOI, I read this post with interest, because (as many) I was fooled for a lot of years by a 'charmer'. Some people saw through him, some still haven't.

But what struck me more were the comments. It seems the focus is on those who keep on repeating the same mistakes, but what is worse, is when that one hawk colours the vision so that every bird appears a hawk, even when it's a wren or robin...

Richard said...

anellisa: not so much protesting as trying to contain 100 different way my mind wants to look at this. Perhaps I flew off on an incomprehensible tangent ...

Lisa: Thank you very much and thanks for the visit. Yes, it is sad to me.

Richard: I'm not really sure how my poem elicited your response but I do get that you are one of the nice honest men that any woman would appreciate and be lucky to have. There just seems to be so many dishonest and as you say, selfish men who take advantage of trusting women who may be gullible.
Why does this happen so often? Do women just want to feel needed and of value so much that they're willing to accept less than they deserve, do thay have low self-esteem so they're willing to put up with the lieing etc. ot do they truly not see it? These men can be real charmers and fool a lot of people. Some are even in churches where they can look good.

I agree and realize this is different for different cultures...hopefully this is starting to change a little.

You do have a zillion viewpoints, Richard! I actually wrote it from a pretty simple one; I hate when women get fooled by lies!

Annelisa: At least you finally saw through him and chose to split. Would you have listened to others or believed them had they told you what they thought?

Yes, once bitten, twice shy but I've even seen it happen again when they THOUGHT they were being very wary! Guess these guys are just good at it!

Becky L said...

i know exactly what you're talking about. i have a friend who's in a prediciment like that. but like you said, she can't see it for herself

Friday, April 13, 2007

TorAa said...

A Robin, so sweet and joyful, has enemies all over. That's so sad. But the law of the Nature.

As allways I listen to your song while reading your inspiring posts. This poem I found great.

Due to tech circumstances, I've been out of normal blog-circulation for a while. Hope it will come back to normal. (I've posted some short one on my blog 2 - http://toraamusic.blogspot.com )

Friday, April 13, 2007

Lynette said...

Such powerful and expressive words (I could feel my adrenlin going up as I read this)! Oh there are way too many hawks out there and I just want to warn that robin...warning, danger ahead, stay away stay away!

Friday, April 13, 2007

Richard said...

I have always been an idealist in my world view.

Saturday, April 14, 2007