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Friday, July 06, 2007

Moving On Without a Backward Glance!

Mona gave us some free reign for today's poetry word and I've been wanting to post this for a long time.

stray cat

the stray tomcat
greedily laps up all the milk
you carefully poured
because he craves it
and it is there…
you offer it unconditionally,
he gobbles the kibble hungrily
only to satiate a nutritional need
but he keeps none of it,
indeed, he treasures not a morsel
of this nourishment,
feels no obligation,
no threads of attachment,
his heart well hidden
under the rough, dull, lack-lustre fur,
covered with burrs,
the only hint of where he’s been,
the only attachment known to him,
evidence of his tough life-
his sandpaper tongue darts out
as he quickly opens and shuts his mouth
only to briefly savour your gift
before sauntering off,
one thirst quenched -
another greater need arising
and he is gone
with a mere flick of his tail -
no looking back.

Perhaps you know people like this too. They take what they need from you and move on, completely disconnected. Did they use you or simply take what you offered them? How are we to feel? Glad that they took our "gift" or sad and hurt that they used us and did not appear appreciative? I'm still pondering.

Mother of Invention, still trying to figure out how people can do this.

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Blogger Mother of Invention said...

Sorry, comments got turned off somehow and the spacing is horrible! Blogger is doing weird things and I can't fix the Create mode is stuck on Edit Html and I can't get it to switch to Compose, so I'm dealing with all the garble, have no idea if I've uploaded the right picture, and the spacing is all off. I'm afraid to wipe out anything in case it's actual words that are part of the post!

Can anyone help?

Friday, July 06, 2007

Blogger Rapunzel said...

Mother of Invention, we have a cat who is visiting us daily right now..she/he and Salem have become fast friends. I'm not sure how that works in catland, when Salem turns his back on his friend and saunters into the house I feel so bad! I think this kitty has a home, but perhaps just not as nice as the castle where ours reside. :-)

By the way, please take a peek at my blog when you have time, I tagged you for a Meme. :)

Friday, July 06, 2007

Blogger Bob said...

sorry, no advice on blogger. have you tried their help?

I don't understand people who use others either. at least cats are unambiguous. they let you know in no uncertain terms that we are there to serve them and we are of no other consequence to them.

gotta love the independent so-and-sos, though.

Friday, July 06, 2007

Blogger twilite said...

Hi MOI! I came earlier to find comments button not on.

Remember my problem? I left a message on every posting (for the administrators to read) until that was rectified. That took about a week or more.

It's difficult for anyone to offer help when you're at the edit function...sorry no help!

I still don't know how to handle those who make use of another especially colleagues. Avoid them I just go crazy for a while!!! Mad huh?

Friday, July 06, 2007

Blogger meno said...

Oh bob, you are so cute. Blogger help, hahaha ha haha hahhahaha.

I think the answer to your question is both, or either. It depends on what we are expecting in return.

Friday, July 06, 2007

Blogger Mike M said...

I know several people like this. Sad but true.

Great poem!

Friday, July 06, 2007

Blogger steve said...

There was a cat that was real lonely at a place I lived and nobody liked him/her/it. i gave it some milk and that cat fell in love with me...i named it/her/him 'Top-Cat" like from the cartoon....but then someone said that he/it was a girl cat so I named her Goldilocks...but then someone said it was a boy cat, only "neutered" so I named the poor bastard "Blondie"...that cat really loved me...but i've never been a cat person, especially after he/her/ it visited the litter box i bought... so I had to run Blondie out with a broom one day...but that cat loved me so kept coming back...until the neighbor that was mean to the cat found someone that wanted him...and the cat lived happily ever after (except I don't think blondie could love anyone as much as he/it her did me)I guess
i'm just glad that even though I couldn't be a very good friend for very long, I was able to be cool enough for long enough that a friend for a friend was found.
Poor Blondie.

oh, no, i can't help...are you kidding?
Poor MOI

Friday, July 06, 2007

Anonymous Anonymous said...


i think i've been both - a taker and a giver.... sometimes the need is so great, so overwhelming that we swamp others with it, drown them....... then embarrassed, we slink away into the night ..... sometimes, we give our all thinking it will change another - but silly us - no one can change another ...... sometimes we take just because it is offered..... and sometimes we give just because we love to give ....... i wish i could be more definitive ...... but like a cat - i have a tendency to walk on both sides of the fence ......


Friday, July 06, 2007

Blogger Pauline said...

Well, if the episode on its own was a happy one, take Dr. Seuss's advice and don't be sad it's over, be glad it happened. If, while it was happening you knew you were being used, be more cautious next time (once you've stopped crying...)

Saturday, July 07, 2007

Blogger thailandchani said...

Expectations are planned resentments? I'm still trying to grab that one with both hands, too.



Saturday, July 07, 2007

Anonymous chase said...

Well I get mad at first but it will subside after. I used to be the person that's usually get used due to my naivety. It is painful but I certainly learned something out of it.

Saturday, July 07, 2007

Blogger Coffee-Drinking Woman said...

So, why wait for a poetry firday when you have something you want to post? Post away!

Saturday, July 07, 2007

Blogger gr said...

Perhaps that's why we like cats and dogs so much? They are usually quite open about their gratitude and love?

Sunday, July 08, 2007

Blogger Mother of Invention said...

Rapunzel:I feel sorry for stray cats but at the same time, I don't want them beating up mine!

(I'll check soon!)

Bob: Blogger is no help if the buttons aren't working.

I admire the directness and independence of cats!

Twilite: You mean admin actually read posts?!

I am just trying to avoid those kind of people and not expect anything fromthem.

Meno: You're right. I tend to have high/positive expectations from everyone and think they'll match my high standards and it's been disappointing to find this is just not how everyone is. A good lesson.

Mike: Thanks! 'Tis sad, to be sure.

Steve: AW! It loved you unconditionally! You would have had the perfect pet! "And the very next day, The cat came back! Thought he was a goner but...."!!!

RDG: Thanks for being honest. I am far too sensitive to have been much of a user but I know I should just be positive about whatever was good and leave those people far behind me and be ultra cautious the next time.
At least you realized the effect and felt something like remorse...these people did not feel anything and more or less were intentional in their hurt. That, I can never accept well. Maybe they were jealous and resentful that I wasn't a stray!

Pauline: Wise sage advice and I think I have learned a lesson here.

Thailandchani: Yes, and I have way too high expectations which I've learned to's a bonus if you get more.

Chase: A hard lesson and I'm sorry for the hurt but it does get less with time.

Coffee-drinking woman: The time was just right now and the word for Friday prompted me to realize was a sensitive area for me.

Gr: I admire their directness and independence but love when they really appreciate you and show love!

Sunday, July 08, 2007

Blogger Barbara said...

I've asked a lot of these same questions about the friend who walked out of my life this week, never to look back, discarding me onto a growing pile of used-up friends.

Sunday, July 08, 2007

Blogger Mother of Invention said...

Barbara: I can relate perfectly. You wonder what you did wrong and can still see little, but it was taken the wrong way. In my case, it was just better to move on and try to focus on all the great friends and family I have excellent relationships with and recognize that this person was just a quirky individual with an incorrect perception.

Sunday, July 08, 2007

Blogger Jocelyn said...

Fun poem--it could be titled "Diffidence," as that's one of the best words for what cats do, attitudinally...and their human counterparts.

Sunday, July 08, 2007

Blogger OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

I wish I had an answer for your Nlogger probelem....Personally, I have found them completely unavailable for help of any kind...I don't even know how to get in tuch with them...I don't think they want us to know...(LOL)

As to being used and then thrown away, so to speak....I have certainly experienced it, and found it terribly painful...BUT, if I really examined this relationship---playing the old tapes in my hwad---they were always signs that I chose to overlook or ugnore---a mistake that I hope I won't make anymore, but you never know. Some people are so seductive and I can certainly be seduced, and I'm not talking about sexual here, at all.
I don't think I have ever done that to another person...I mean just useed them and thrown them away.

Sunday, July 08, 2007

Blogger Lynette said...

I Love the poem this week M.O.I. and it really struck a chord with me. About a year ago, we had a starving gray Tom appear at our font door. He was so pitiful looking and half his tail was cut off! I don't know what happened to him but I started keeping him fresh dry food and water on the front porch and every evening he would come up and eat. He would cross the road to come over to my house and I would flinch every time he crossed the road. He got very fat and his tail healed and then he started coming less and less often. Well there are lots of new houses that were built across the road the last year. He just suddenly stopped appearing so I'm hoping with all my heart that he just found a new home over there! btw, I would love to try painting your black cat picture (in front of the fence)! Love the pics!!

Monday, July 09, 2007

Blogger GEWELS said...

Givers and takers- I've been the "victim" of a taker- and yes, I gave freely and willingly only te have that someone slink off in (as REd Dirt Girl put it) embarrassment.

As sad and as hurt as I was, I was glad I could give when it was needed and willingly gave until there was nothing left to give....Now, I give my nothing, still.

Monday, July 09, 2007

Blogger Mother of Invention said...

Jocelyn: yes, thanks. Cats have cattitude for sure!

OldOld Ldy of Hills: Yes, they are not much good but the problem mysteriously corrected itself the next time I pushed the Compose button!
People can be good actors and very convincing, and yes, there were signs but I tend to want to give everyone the benefit of the doubt for too long.

Lynette: AW! I hope it got a nice home too. Go ahead and paint it! I used to have black cats but this one is googled!

Gewells: I'm still in a quandry as to whether I should have bothered when it was so unappreciated.

Tuesday, July 10, 2007


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